#3: “English Garden” … Are We Addicted To Stress ?
Move forward.
The secret to well-being is making the right choices.
LET GO
This is a guide for the thinkers, & intellect observers. This is not for everyone.Affirmation Of The Week: I am making choices for my well-being 😊
Your guide to awareness, love , and well-being this week. Are you his Jacqueline Kennedy or his Marilyn Monroe. If your questioning it, you may know your answer. Wish I could interview the both of them. As i’m navigating the order of content of my writing moving forward is to envision an English Garden: orderly fashion of various flowers that co-exist within one area.
Law Homework Section: This week I watched Legally Blonde 1 & 2 On amazon prime. Also just such a nice Sunday night meal prep movie in your apartment 💕
Love Section: “Start As Friends” and go from there…
Its so much easier to start as friends. There’s no pressure and no matter what you’ll still have a friend. Plus you can see them more for who they truly are, and there’s a chance you might end up only liking them as a friend. When a guy references you as a “sweet heart” does that mean he’s in love with you ? I think it means he cares for you. Sweetheart is a word of endearment. He admires your innocence, I think...
Thought: NHL guys must watch a lot of TV and movies in their hotel rooms. Unless they just scroll on tik-tok and fall into the Instagram abyss on their I-phone, which i’ve seen first hand. I think movies can teach you a lot especially when you want to just chill. But if you post a lot, since they overconsume so much, I guess they could get more into the girls that they constantly see since their in person connections aren’t strong as they are always on the go. Or its like a fast dopamine and then they move on. Maybe become less accessible.
Your ex’s Birthday is coming up? : Don’t wish them happy birthday, if you wouldn’t text them “how are you, or what are you doing tonight”. I promise you’ll feel better. #nomessageisamessage You can “happy birthday” your way back into anyone’s life. But Be Intentional, a desperate birthday wisher, is a desperate birthday wisher. is his “thankyou” really gonna be something you hold on to ? The common curtesy word “thank you”. Move Forward.
Are guys still replying to IG stories. like are guys still active ?
“sometimes you gotta just do it for shits and gigs” - if you see hot guys at cherry’s dive bar or just want to feel main character on a Sunday after grocery shopping, take the long way, strut by a couple restaurants, create it, live a bit, stay dangerous, never careless.
Encourage Bonding: “Look into their Left eye with your right eye” A YouTube channel with a neuroscientist mentioned this. I will test this theory.
Knowledge Section:
Is it Woman or Women ? Women is more than one and woman is one/individual. Good to know.
New Words: Iteritive, Honorarium, Aromatic, Be-hoove, Ubiquitous , Fortran(computer) apparently they use to have programs where you’d write.
New Terms: Amber Flag…
so it’s not green go, not red stop, but not slow down yellow, kinda like a … upside down question mark?????? “Shes an Amber Flag”
Food Intention: ur not even hungry, just hungry for love. were all skinnier when were truly in love and thats the truth. Start With Self Love which Starts with Self Respect. “treat your body like a temple” “if Budha was beside you, would this change your next decisions?”
Geography & Real Estate Section
I find out that in Vancouver they have a “empty homes tax” so if you aren’t living in your home and its not being rented or subletting etc, you’ll be taxed a large sum…https://vancouver.ca/home-property-development/empty-homes-tax.aspx
“Barrie is the snow belt of Ontario, meaning it gets the most snow” I just find it hard it to believe that it gets more snow than Sudbury ?
People in NY refer to the Hamptons as “Oh are you going out East This weekend?” Where as Toronto, its always “i’m going up North This weekend”, and if you say up north and your referencing anything but Mukoksa??? that would be odd in the toronto social circle.
London: Is LONDON OUT? X Elsa “how do people live here”
Travel Section: UNION TO the Muskoka Lakes Municipality - I once did a report at Queen’s University in my Transportation 330 geography class around Elon Musk’s Hyper Loop Plan from San Fran to LA.
The train from Union Station to Allandale Waterfront Go Station took 1 hour and 48 minutes. From there the Muskoka Uber took 1 hour and 20 minutes. So that’s a total of let’s call it 3 hours and 10 minutes since the Uber took some time off. I believe the Uber wad $180 split between two people, and the go train was about $15. I got a drive to Barrie and a friend ubered home again it was $200. Crazy. Not sustainable for more than a spontaneous weekday trip.@elonmusk Elon.musk@Tesla.com https://www.tesla.com/ if you can set up a tesla charging station in Muskoka and do your own little tesla Uber taxi station with the project #1 being in Muskoka, you would be helping a lot of people travel with ease. Especially with the current problem at the Kee to Bala which @livenation bought in summer 2023. Transportation, and taxi services is a huge problem and scarce accessibility in Muskoka, Ontario. Would relieve a lot of family feud as to who has to drive, etc.
Portside Fusion :98 Joseph St, Port Carling, ON P0B 1J0 Photos Below: https://portsidefusion.com/ I liked that you can hear and see the water flow. 🌊
The Flix bus is your safest and reliable method of transportation not to mention cheapest. I was kindly ubered home from Barrie for $200 exact. The thought of just putting that in my savings makes me want to throw up but that’s ok. I took the Flix Bus from Sarnia to Union last weekend to visit my cousin. It was super soothing to see so much green. I appreciate the space on the bus. It feels much less claustrophobic than the via rail 😳
It was my little Sister who discovered Flix Bus last summer when wed been travelling to and from Toronto to Queen’s University. a #flixgirlthroughNthrough https://www.flixbus.ca/
Health & Wellness Section: Let Go Of What Others Think & Give Yourself A Pat On The Back
There’s a “rumble: cough going on in Toronto right now, and a weird case of ‘summer covid” where you get really hot. Summer Covid means your body has no AC or its broken. My co-worker said she felt invalid (bedrest).
Talking About It = is apart of the process. Both times I was at the Ritz Carleton Downtown outdoor patio (which is a gem and my favorite patio - poised environment - in passing I’ve heard people conversing about addiction. Addiction can be anything right; food, alcohol, masturbation, drugs ? Anything that you lose self control over ? Comment section is open for discussion. But the senses I got was that their is no cure for addiction rather BALANCE. Since its up to us to limit our consumption/intake and find a HEALTHY Balance with all things that make us feel good and bad. By living with it your an expert. Case Scenario: if you were the expert specialist, and giving advice to a new patient what would you advise them ? For myself, id say put both feet on the ground, and let the urge and impulse (mostly the muscle memory your body knows - this is apart of breaking that habit to form new muscle movements. By putting both feet on the ground your allowing the urge to pass, and letting the uncomfortable get uncomfortable in order to leave your body.
Finding a place or spot where you feel relaxed and soothed is key. Be mindful of the places that trigger your anxiety’s or reactions and pause. “What in my environment right now is fueling this trigger?” Is something you can ask yourself. Sometimes its not the location but the area your in. try a new spot if your feeling uncomfortable.
This Weeks Challenge: 72 Hour Whole Food Diet. Nothing packaged or processed. That’s it. See how you feel. Finish a challenge for yourself. Get Hotter, Get Fitter, Get More successful, Get More Confident… only person stopping ourselves is ourselves. Faster you realize your potential, faster you get to that perfect dream altitude.
Sitting with yourself, allows your demons to pop up for light aka they go away. Really good youtube video to put on: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IxVNR0Om-lA
Journal Prompt: What stressed you out last week? Write it down. And then attentively look at these nuisance and limit them. Ways to limit is to not engage. Don’t live in obligations. Say No with no apologies. It doesn’t matter who it is, be aware of this, and make changes. Can we as a society be BOLD enough to ask our good friends lovingly if there’s things we need to change about ourselves ? If you have been feeling off or unauthentic around friends recently, instead of cutting them off (sometimes this is needed but its more of an epiphany moment) here are 4 ways to help:
Listen More Than You Speak - let your friend lead the conversation - you dont always need to drive
Stop talking about the future - talk about the present .. “What can I do today” <3
Go for an Ice cream or vegan gelato walk and talk. And find a park with lots of grass. Bringing music, and a blanket lets you hangout with your friends in a chill setting where talking isn’t always necessary.
Ask them their opinions on something that is stressing or on your mind, and rather repudidnly with “well I” or “i did it like this” or anything with ‘I”, try and dive into their reasoning and learn strategies from your loved ones. MY younger sister pointed out that when people are sharing things with you (even though you can relate and might have a very exact story) sometimes listening and asking questions rather than giving answers can show your support more. We all can relate to things, thus we don’t always need to state our correlation (we can keep that for ourselves too❤️)
Clubs, Hotels, Resorts & Business Review:
Corporate Jargan = COI = Center Of Intention
Without a target and plan = you won’t be efficient. What is your target ? and hit that. Small targets.
The radar: The Amex Lounge at Budweiser Stage Toronto needs a makeover. Palm Trees. If the Amex lounge had interior re done (@amex I would consider consider taking this project on this summer) Palm trees and a set AP (after party) time with a theme, set list, and proper advertising would create more of a Amex community and a further feeling for customers that focuses on “exclusive”. Nothing like taking users to the next level to reach their “aspirations” like spending time at the Amex lounge conversing with other aspirational members of the American Express Lounge. It reminded me of the spot in Kingston.
3 ways I’d Improve the American Express Lounge:
Create more of a welcoming and clean environment
Decor - bring the vibes up with palm trees and other French preserve flowers like a Swiss cheese plant and more. It will brighten the room, and bring it alive, the lounge needs to match the vibe and feel that American Express Users get with owning a card.
I’d need to go back and do an environment consultation to move forward
When it comes to the Hospitality Industry, Service is Everything. Its like servers have forgotten the COI for the hospitality industry is “Be Welcoming”. The corporate jargon of the week is COI = Center Of Intention. What is your center of intention? A wise man at my workplace advised me with this term, and it is transferable into both work and personal.
Ambience & Environment: Rooftop Summer Spots:
Note To Self: Music can save the vibe, or kill it. Music is that soft touch. Or hard
Harriets rooftop @ The 1 Hotel (Not The One in Yorkville FYI): https://www.1hotels.com/toronto/taste/harriets-rooftop
It gives West Hollywood Feel. Touch of Soho House West Hollywood, and a really nice pool area, which is always booked and mostly for the guest hotels. The hotel it self has an eco friendly aroma to it. The rooftop does remind me slightly of the Highlight Room In LA, but way smaller and if you know Toronto, the highlight room has more correlation to night life like LAVELLE, where Harriet’s gives more respectful and clean environment. https://taogroup.com/venues/the-highlight-room-los-angeles/ - Asian Style Food - Really good Sun Spot, for direct hit of sun.
Evangeline; reminded me of the feeling I had on the balcony terrace areas at the SOHO little beach house in Malibu. The vibe of the restaurant or lounge itself was very intimate, conserved yet an open feel concept. Similar to the OG Soho Vibe. I love the concept of Soho, and as guest (no membership) i’ve always enjoyed myself and the ambience. I love the ideas of “same page community”, although I fear its loosing sight of its Maintenance, at least on the North American Side. What shocked me the most in New York, at the the quality of service. It felt like the servers hated being there and that vibe rubs off in the environment. A room full of people vibing is like sparkles and a room filled with even a quarter of unhappy people, you can feel it in the room. Hence why I’m so intrigued on studying and being so observant of the environment you are in and ultimately surround yourself with. I found the servers to be rude. Same thing at the Harriot’s. Knowledge Fact: As a server, you should bill out your customers at your serving station when preparing the atm, not on the way to their table. Why? Me and our new friend Lila from Tampa,Fl (former interior designer and pharmacist owner) was staying at the 1 (harriot’s) and expressed her disappointment in service. We both tried to get our server’s attention to order food, and he was walking by head down (like he was on his phone but it was his atm machine) and he didn’t notice or check on us as he walked by again. Its the same thing as walking on the street on your phone, you MISS everything that’s happening in front of you, THUS ur not present. Back to the ace hotel, the service was good. However, the open outdoor concept that was such a nice and freeing, and no pressure feel would be the unlikely second date spot, or the third date saver (meaning if u need to up ur game). Development Gem, if you want to see what Toronto has done, and what is possible. Visionary. Note To Self: Go with the right people here, “your people” to get the full experience.
🌸🌸🌸🌸Flowers, Fashion & Food Section: 🌸🌸🌸🌸
Everything sets the tone and mood. I’ve gone to peoples homes where I’ve been so confused, so clear, concerned, and in love. Just like the delivery of words, the placement of your furniture, art, and décor ends up being the self expression that people perceive to be who you are. I personally feel i could be doing a better job at staying more present and creating a room that reflects “my vibe”. Cafe 23 in Ossington in Toronto https://www.instagram.com/cafe23coffeebar/?hl=en I will get to Ossington Area When the Toronto VIBE Guide is created. I resonate with this spot, since it looks like some of my thoughts and ideas have been projected. I don’t love their coffee but the ambience and vibe is there. Good oatmeal cookie, not too sweet. On college and Bathurst, Manic Coffee, the oatmeal cookie (which has changed to a skinnier version) is excellent and the coffee is dager. @maniccoffee https://www.instagram.com/maniccoffee/?hl=en I only knew about this spot after teaching in the local area, but not the summer before when I lived a few streets over… gem tho.
Flower of the Week: 🌸 Orchids - orchids are cosmopolitan plant that can be found all around the world expect glaciers. Mhmmmm….. A cute bar request and new drink could be “can you make me an orchid cosmopolitan”…. I guess purple gin would need to be mixed, or something super cloudy like a lychee martini to keep it white orchid style or pink orchid. Two weeks ago, at the Ritz patio I asked the bartender to make me a drink that reminded him of “Martha Stewart”. Also, if you want to heal anything, friendship, relationship, I believe the Ritz Toronto is the spot to do it. There’s something in the air and environment that gives “were at the right place”. The photo is below.
Orchids are the epitome of sustainable. I’ve had mine since March? And they are still glowing and thriving. Their roots are so there.
New Garden Term: English Garden = “sense of order”
Companies & Brands: CAT everywhere and Bass Pro Shop Hats. Like everywhere, Jamaica to Toronto to NY.. Bass Pro shop is coming back or already has.
“diesel shirts & Dads”
I’ve been seeing guys wearing a lot of Diesel T-shirts, like mostly dads or middle aged men, which to me is so bizarre since Diesel seemed to be branding for more fetch women ??? I did notice https://www.brownsshoes.com/en/home has been selling Diesel, and the “outlet” store is located in Yorkdale? Its pretty confusing what their current BP is. The under armour x bull collaboration which is with the ROCK, i’ve been noticing this bull around the city a lot on clothing. I’m dying at my good friend CZ who said Dwayne Johnson was the basketball player LOOOOL. UGH she makes me laugh.
Uber Eats= the Uber eats in the city is getting insanely out of control. At commerce courts west. I must see at least 4 Uber delivery people every time I walk into the building … the lawyers must be expensing, but in there defense everything closes in the PATH at 3 pm, and there’s genuinely no good eating locations along Bay Street and especially King Street from Simcoe to Spadina… The new Wendy’s just got put in beside the BISHA??? What is the geography and vibe planning here, genuinely… and there’s a shoppers and wild groceries which is the epitome of masking. It looks fresh and wild, it is legit wildly gross and expensive, its #catfishgrocery. I guess there’s bulk barn and a Belly Buster (chain). the belly buster on King is not the same experience and ataste as the original Midtown location. Like nothing alike. Midtown gives family run, downtown gives “confused franchise” but still its all mid. Mid… it costed me 15 dollars today to get meat, a bun, 1 tomato, and some watermelon which would’ve been a bit cheaper and unlimited toppings at the sub shop, and any smoothie in the city is 10-16$. So I could’ve went to earls and got a salad and chicken for about the same price and enjoyed the ambiance. The food consumption and accessibility especially in the city has become straight greed and laziness.
Childhood Section: I think this section is needed this week. Winx is the childhood unlock of the week. https://www.primevideo.com And Lizzie Mcguire this summer was really healing to watch on Disney, and the messages of each episodes are bases for strong foundations. I’d play this show in my classes and do write ups with students. If your feeling down, tap into your inner child. Start by taking a simple action; an old enjoyable movie, and if you watch it with a friend, double the points and dopamine
Leave With This:
Speak 2 Yourself Kindly. With Love. Take the first 20 minute of your day for yourself in quietude.
Don’t Be Afraid of Change - ur change doesn’t need to be triple better. Its not always an equal trade. Staying somewhere that isn’t serving you is a disservice to the world. Allow for their to space for other things to walk in. Fuck the Nuclear War … Fuel Your Rocketship. Be Resilient
Consistent & Familiarity are two different things. Get consistent with your goals and well-being … staying in something because its Familiar is the F in Fear. Make Calculated Risks. Have Courage to Change Direction & Heal
This Week Reminder: Attitude is Altitude - your attitude decides how grounded and present you are in your life. Change your attitude and get to that dream altitude.
Limit the things In Your Life To Be Limitless
@Lilbaby
Flower Section vibes
Did you ever try this @ Mcdonald’s ?